早在上上周，俺就开始发愁如期上演的节日“害怕寂寞”＋“恐惧人群”＋“懒得动”等种种矛盾统一的症状。打定主意在家抱着我的mini大不了通宵了。

跑去找Yan瞎聊时，一拍即合，不管怎样，先医了第一个症状；接着，yan邀请另一同类Li，成功实现圣诞偷欢的年龄梯度，也就意味着我们大有交流的空间（只是，这个设想并未实现）。晚餐Yan也一并落实，省了我们一大～片心。

平安夜当晚，我们如期到达吃饭地点－－拉丁餐厅。现在明白为啥我们没怎么说话了吧，现场实在不是一般的有气氛。。。吃的没什么可说，最后现场一乐队还跑来我们这桌拉着我们吼了一通。。。刺激的应该算是餐厅的抽奖，幸运真的就在我们身边哦。注意，这里说的是在我们身边－－我们隔壁桌一连中了三等和一等。哈哈，还好在隔壁桌，看来来年咱们努把小力就可以够到了。

饭后，我们达成一致，为了不浪费的士费，怎么都得吸收点人气才回去，于是决定去～逛街。Yan介绍我们去了两家她常去的小店，粉不错，果然是骨灰级的淘手。一进到服装店，刚才储存的能量瞬间释放，直到Li有急事我们才衣衣不舍的离开。。。汗一个。

流水帐一样的记录下来，希望明年今日能更多一份主动，更多一份创意，更多一份收获。

There are parts of my life where you were just there with me. Thank you for being my side.

生活就是一系列的选择。
能够选择你想要的方式，能够活出自己，是一种幸运。
而这种幸运其实就是自己选择的结果。：）

I. 网上拷过来的结尾部分中英文结合版－－from ScottZhao

In many ways, the work of a critic is easy.
就很多方面来说评论家的工作很轻松
We risk very little, yet enjoy a position over those who offer up their work and their selves to our judgment.
我们冒的风险小却位高权重，人们必须奉上自己和作品供我们评论
We thrive on negative criticism, which is fun to write and to read.
我们以负面评论见称,因为读写皆饶富趣味
But the bitter truth we critics must face is that in the grand scheme of things, the average piece of junk is probably more meaningful than our criticism designating it so.
可是，我们评论家必须面对一个难堪的事实 :以价值而言, 被评论家批评为平庸之物的同时，我们的评论也许比他更为平庸
But there are times when a critic truly risks something and that is in the discovery and defense of the new.
可是有时候评论家真的得冒险去发现并且捍卫新的事物
The world is often unkind to new talent, new creations.
这个世界对待新秀，新的创作 非常苛刻，
The new needs friends.
新人及新作需要朋友
Last night, I experienced something new, an extraordinary meal from a singularly unexpected source.
昨晚我有个全新的经验,奇妙的一餐来自令人意想不到的出处
To say that both the meal and its maker have challenged my preconceptions about fine cooking is a gross understatement.
如果说那一餐和它的创造者挑战了我对精致美食先入为主的观念, 这仍只是轻描淡写的说法
They have rocked me to my core.
他们彻底震撼了我
In the past, I have made no secret of my disdain for Chef Gusteau's famous motto, "Anyone can cook."
过去我公开对食神古斯多的著名格言“料理非难事”表示不屑
But I realize only now do I truly understand what he meant.
但是我发觉现在我才真正了解他的意思
Not everyone can become a great artist,
并非任何人都能成为伟大的艺术家
but a great artist can come from anywhere.
但是伟大的艺术家可能来自任何地方
It is difficult to imagine more humble origins than those of the genius now cooking at Gusteau's, who is, in this critic's opinion, nothing less than the finest chef in France.
现今在食神餐厅掌厨的天才出身之低微令人难以想像,依在下之见, 他是法国最好的厨师
I will be returning to Gusteau's soon, hungry for more.
我很快会再光顾食神餐厅,满足我的口腹之欲
It was a great night. The happiest of my life.
那是美好的一晚，我生命中最快乐的一夜

II. 颇励志的几句－－from ScottZhao

Great cooking is not for the faint of heart.
胆小的人做不出精湛的美食
You must be imaginative, strong hearted.
只要有想像力，还要有决心
You must try things that may not work.
千万不要怕失败
And you must not let anyone define your limits because of where you come from.
也不要因为出身低就让别人限制了你发展的机会
Your only limit is your soul.
你的成败在于你的心
What I say is true. Anyone can cook. But only the fearless can be great.
我说的是真话 任何人都可以烹饪。但是只有勇者才会成功

I'm sorry I haven't written

Robin is mad at me. Or, she should be. It's been months since I've written to her, and so much has happened. I want to know about her new baby. I want to know all about the new house, and I want to hear how she's coping with a year so chock-full of change.

The wanting is the easy part. The telling is the hard part. The telling, I think, is what is causing distance between me and so many old friends. It's not that I have something huge to tell Robin. There is just so...much.

Like Robin, Susannah is mad at me. And so are Kathy and Judy and Kit and Lynn and Sally and Joanne. Or, they should be. And I should be mad at them. We don't keep in touch in the ways we believe we should. But we often forgive. We are friends who fall into a special category I can't quite name.

People talk about 'old friends' as if all of them are the same: folks you shared some good times with, and folks you'd love to hang out with and tell stories of the good old days. Anyone who has ever gone to college has many such 'old friends'.

Anyone who has ever made it beyond those years probably has some of this other kind I'm talking about, too. I need a name for them. They are friends with whom you once shared a lot of life's content. Big things happened, and you were there for each other.

I could open my MS Outlook right now and begin a message to Robin. I could say, 'Oh, my gosh,' and 'I'm sorry it has been so long since I've written,' and I could begin to reconnect. If I do that, I (and poor Robin) would be in for perhaps 25,000 words of summary to get her up to date with my recent life.

I wish I knew what to call these people, to diffrentiate them from the rest. You could advise: 'Just call her!' Of course. But once again the commitment of time required to do the job right (17 or 18 hours of gabbing, minimum) isn't practical.

Kathy, who recently wrote to say she might be coming to town, added a P.S.: 'I'm getting divorced.'

I wrote back with 'What?' and 'Oh, my God!' and she said:'There's been so much to tell you that I don't know where to start, so I don't start at all.' She added, 'I feel like I'm losing a whole category of good friends all because of an inability to ... condense the plot of my life.'

'Plot friends.' Hmm. People with whom you share important life plot points. It's not an identifier that sings, but I'm getting closer. You don't edit these people out of your history, and you want to weave them into your present. If your life were not a novel, they would be characters in it, not readers of it.

So, I open my MS Outlook and begin a message to Robin, 'Are you mad at me?' I started. 'I am so sorry I have been so out of touch.' In a few hours, she writes back. 'I'm not mad at you,' she writes, 'But you should be mad at me.'

And so we begin the dance. Or, more accurately, the next bumbling chapter. People who read the novel of your life may critique the sloppy structure, but the characters don't care.

---21 century November 28, 2007

应该也会会心一笑加豆大汗珠数颗吧

人最重要的问题，在于认识自己。

有的女人爱折腾，如果嫁一个老实巴交的男人，过风平浪静的日子，她就会受不了；相反，有的女人贪图安逸，那么就不适合嫁给志存高远的男人。所以关键在于你是怎样一个人。

结婚意味着一种生活方式，与不同的人结婚，意味着你有不同的生活。假如你根本没有想好这一点，怎么可能做出正确的选择呢？所以，先不要说对不起谁，或者没有放下谁，女人的心不是筐，不是用来装男人的，有的女人把自己的心当做一个筐，今天装这个男人，明天放那个男人，放这个的时候觉得对不起那个，装那个的时候觉得对不起这个。不要做这样的女人。把他们都放下，想想，自己到底要过什么样的生活？如果没有想好，就先不做抉择。如果非要抉择，那以后就不要后悔；如果以后非要后悔，那至少要做到现在不后悔。爱情中，最重要的品质是“义无返顾”。假如你做不到，就不太容易幸福。”

认识自己，义无返顾。